It took away part of my identity as the provider

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And I’ll shout it from the hilltops

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Or do they?

The crescent moon symbol of Islam, the star of David symbol of Judaism, and the cross symbol of Christianity on the side of a brown, mud wall.
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You want to like your kids too — but it doesn’t happen automatically

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You don’t have all the time in the world

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Yes, scoffer, Jesus is coming back soon

neon sign that reads, ‘this is the sign you’ve been looking for’.
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It’s a microaggression that won’t offend me

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And ensure that they are kept safe and free from harm

red sign with a skull and crossbones saying “this is your decision point”
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I had great parents.

They raised five kids and they gave us great advice for success in life. Two pieces of advice they gave us were:


A Poem

It makes me feel uneasy

black gun and bullets
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The desired response does not necessarily depend on the given consequence

‘NAUGHTY BUT NICE’ in red and white neon lights
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Vuyo Ngcakani

writer, husband for 25 years, father of 3, grandfather of 1

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